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Is your tech-savvy spouse cheating?

Technology has changed the way we live, do our jobs and interact with others. Today it is common for spouses to Tweet, Snapchat, message, Zoom, or use some new platform. This connectivity is great for keeping in touch with friends and family and can make it easier to balance a demanding home life and a job.

It also makes it easier than ever for spouses or partners to cheat. Some in past decades may have contemplated infidelity but deemed it too risky in tightknit communities. Now the temptation proves to be too easy for some with several dating apps out there, some even marketed as good for cheating spouses. It’s as easy as swipe right or swipe left.

The telltale signs

It can be challenging to track this kind of behavior, mainly if you are not tech-savvy, but there are still some easy to recognize clues to watch for:

  • Always on social media: Many update their social media platform of choice or message friends, but cheaters tend to have a bit more fun doing it, perhaps ignoring those in the room as they do it. Look for friends or names that are obviously fake and casually ask about the ones you see pop up on their screen.
  • Constant texting: Long drawn out texts or a lot of back and forth is out of the ordinary for those with demanding schedules involving families and jobs.
  • New passwords: Many spouses use the same old password for their phone, so take note if they update it but don’t mention it to the rest of the family that they’ve done it, and that other family members should do it too.
  • They take their phone everywhere: A locked bathroom door provides plenty of privacy and can enable bad behavior.
  • But they don’t answer you: They may always be on their phone, but they rarely seem to answer you in short order.

What’s my next step?

There are many ways to track a spouse, some of which are against the law, so be careful. Nevertheless, it is quite simple to access phone records, monitor the whereabouts of a vehicle, or track a phone. Of course, this is a slippery slope, and a spouse may not like the information they find even if it does not involve infidelity. An innocent spouse may also take exception to the accusation, thus breaking the bond of trust.

Those who see the above warning signs or other less tech-oriented clues may wish to propose counseling or discussions about changing the nature of the relationship. However, it may also lead to a confirmation of your suspicions. If this is the case, it may be wise to consult a knowledgeable family law attorney who practices here in Kentucky about filing for divorce.