The holidays can be a stressful time for anyone. It can be due to year-end deadlines at work, more social and family obligations, or perhaps the sense of sadness brought on by all forced friendliness that seems to be everywhere. These points can be all the more acute if a parent or spouse goes through their first holiday season after a divorce. Generally speaking, it is a good idea to mix things up by attending a different church, volunteering at a non-profit, and especially starting new family traditions with the kids.
Strategies for a fresh holiday season
The above suggestions are relatively specific, but a new mindset can help the freshly divorced find ways for easing the stress:
Seek out good company: Family obligations (perhaps involving expensive travel) can be work, but a new beginning may involve less drudgery and more time with friends and family you want to spend time with. It may also involve celebrations with kids during alternate times than the usual norm.
Make self-care a priority: Focusing on oneself can be one of the best gifts. It can mean travel, doing favorite activities, or maybe just staying home and enjoying the quiet. Do whatever feels right, even if it involves unpacking those boxes in the back room.
Celebrate the little things: Little things like going to a movie, taking in local Christmas pageantry, or a visit with an elderly loved one not able to attend holiday festivities may become a cherished memory or the start of a new tradition.
Think about the future: Each holiday season is different, but this one will be more different than most. Regardless of how this holiday season is shaping up, think about all the positives to be thankful for as you move forward and how to make next year even better.
